Hand shaking
 

How are you supposed to shake a girl's hand?
Manly shake like with any other men or soft-touchly shake?

(the girl is smoking hot)

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I think there was a thread about this earlier, but whatever.

Anyways... when shaking a girl's hand (according to Emily Post if I remember correctly) you're supposed to meet her grasp with the same firmness that she clasps your hand with. You don't want to give her the death grip, but if she's giving you a firm one, you don't want to return it with the dead limp fish grip.

Also, you should only shake a girl's hand if she extends it to you. You never extend your hand to a lady cause it's intrusive. If she wants to touch you, then she'll reach for you. (Although most chicks these days aren't aware of this.)

Like with any other man so that the girl knows what she's at.

Better put on some gloves then, mate.

I think MetheGelfling's got it right, especially about not giving her a death grip. I know that when guys give me a handshake and crush my hand I always want to punch them in the face. It comes across as very rude to me.

Pretty much like Melfing says it. Apply a similar, or equal to, pressure.

I hate it when guys give me weak assed handshakes, it's disgusting. It's almost like a limp cock.

Just give a good strong handshake, make sure your hands aren't sweaty (personal pet peeve) and don't hold it for too long, otherwise it's just awkward when she has to break the handshake.

I usually grab firmly for a sec and then to how much she has grasped mine. As a result, she know how confident I am, but at the same time, realizes how gentle I can be.

Seeing as how my previous post was deleted (good job GFF-staff, it was well deserved!) I'll try to be a bit more serious ;) :

I usually make no difference between shaking hands with a female/male. A firm shake is the only way to go.

I don't like shaking peoples hands...it seems so impersonal...
then again, I don't like to get too close to people...
but I like Vivi's answer

I only have two types of hanshakes. Firm and OW.

It's the way I was raised to give the death-grip type handshake. And it seems to be common locally. I'm the type to judge someone on their handshake. Someone who is limp typically has never done farmwork (as most folks in the biz prefer deathgrip!). Also, whenever I shake hands, I can feel if their palms are calloused or not (showing me if they do labor often, etc) amid other things.

I hold back for girls, but geez. I'm not used to it. I often extend handshakes to women, as it is a common greeting according to how I've been raised.

This one gal I met at a conference shook my hand, and it was the firmest handshake a girl ever gave me. I shook her hand upon saying goodbye and gave her my deathgrip one and she complained (jokingly). I can't hit a middle-area >_>

Yes, I would say that MetheGelfling got it right. Seems like the best thing to do. Of course, I don't usually make physical contact with a girl... Hm.

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You wouldn't like my handshake then... my grip is very, very weak, and my palms are baby smooth. The hardest work I do is moving sliders on a mixnig console.

Doesn't mean I'd think any more or less of you if you had done farmwork =p Judge is a harsh word I suppose. Moreso like I "predict" things about folks. The farm one being an example.

Can you tell the difference between farmwork callouses and other callouses? My hands are all roughed up and gross from weightlifting, but I've never worked on a farm. I figured it's best to not have baby soft hands if you're a dude, but guys should still keep their hands clean and their nails trimmed. I suspect that girls check out a guys hands without thinking about it.

Well, if you work on a farm and do enough labor, you'll get callouses in other spots. I lifted weights from when I was 12 clear up until I was 20. You get callouses in only a few spots on your hand. The proper amount of labor puts a good deal of wear & tear on your fingers. Typically, breaking them a few times will do that =p Lifting would put lotsa blisters and callouses, but farmwork would literally gash them up quite badly. Laying out barbed wire, moving and cutting sheet metal, etc.

Plus it's easy to judge whether someone is a lifter or a person who works on a farm. Some dude with a large-gauge loop in his earlobe, shoulder-length hair, stick-legs, and biceps like Schwarzenegger isn't the type you'd see on a tractor. Then we move along to dress-style and footwear...

Plus, there's also the oh-so-famous farmer's tan. Along with a certain amount darkness to the tan. My old man is caucasian, but he's got almost dark-red skin due to all the time he's had out in the sun. Head, neck, and arms only o'course.

I'm guessing it's long out of style to greet a girl by kissing the back of their hands?

Oooo, yeah, I could get used to doing that. :biggrin:

I usually give a firm handshake if a person extends his or her hand first, and I don't have different grips for either gender. Not many males have given me a weak handshake before, but many women have.

I only shake hands if someone else reaches for mine, i am not too firm or light.... it is hard to tell anyway seeing that the handshake only lasts for 3 seconds.

bow to her instead!!! I bow to people that I dun wanna touch lolz

I only shake hands with professional persons only like my dentist, my doctor... my boss?

If the other person reaches for my hand, only then will I shake. There is some kind of unwritten rule about this.

When I do shake hands, I make sure that it is firm, but not crushing, nor like a limp fish. Somewhere in-between the two is good.

I've never shook hands with girls that I don't know, let alone I don't even like touching strangers period.

I've extended my hand towards the ones that I do know and they returned with the firm hand. My hand shakes are often just firm too. I only shake like once or twice and then let go.

Hmm usually I don't know why but around here or atleast in my area of Wisconsin usually you have to extend your hand to anyone(Male or female) and or arms if you wish to hug the person.

But as others said, not limp and not too firm but I like what Musharraf said.

I cradle her fingers. It's polite and it's an easy way to get a quick rub and maybe a sniff. Makes her feel like a lady. And she does deserve to feel like a lady.

So what has sort of developed in the Milineum Generation (I just made up this age group see?) in the South West of Australia is this sorta, I dont know what you would call it but it's not a handshake.

It's like, the girl you extend her hand palm down, and you take her hand. It looks like an invitation to dance. But you don't. Instead you give each other a gentle squeeze and release.

That would be the most common one. I've had girls who immediatly hug or even kiss me on the cheek upon introduction.

I generally just don't shake hands except with men who want a handshake. However if I'm, say, standing in line with the rest of the cast after I've just performed in a show, and the audience is shaking our hands, I'll let the woman decide how she wants the handshake to go, and roll with it. Usually in those situations, it's less of a handshake and more of a half-handshake or a finger-clasp... your palm isn't involved, you just fold your fingers over her fingers. Kind of like you would if you were taking her hand to help her down from a ledge or out of a carriage or whatever, just at a different angle. That's not what I personally like myself, but it happens about 80% of the time - the woman just won't let me grab her actual HAND.

But then I've had some women grab my hand and shake it and I just go "Hm, 'kay, firm handshake right back at ya."

I guess it all depends on the girl's personality.

Personally, guys who have a firm handshakes make impressions on me (good or bad not necessarily determined then). Not entirely sure why, but I suspect that firm handshakes are possible indications of confidence and trustworthiness? There's a bit of straightforwardness to a firm handshake. I figure, just keep your knuckles stiff. Limp or loose handshakes are really disturbing to touch. It feels like the person's hand is going to fall off or apart.... To me, if a person shakes my hand by grasping the fingers only (no palm), then I get the impression that they missed. But that's just me hehe ^_^

Recently though it seems most of the time, hand shaking with females is you lightly grab onto thier fingers and pump the hand once... I guess it as well depends on your background too.

Well, when I shake a dude's hand I'll shake it only as hard as he does. I'm not out to prove anything but don't want to appear weaker either. Now, as for women, I do something I'm not really sure where I picked up at... I extend all my fingers but keep my pinkie and ring finger folded against my palm. Fuck fi I know why. I always give women a weak handshake.

Here in Guatemala men and women don't shake hands though. They do a hug/simultaneous kiss on the cheek combo. Because I'm not used to that approach I usually wait for the girl to do the first act upon introduction, whether reach out to hug me or shake my hand, whatever. Sometimes I'll shake hands with them the first time then respect their custom after that.

Gechmir, that was a hell of a weightlifter stereotype you threw out there. Only posers have physiques like that, though. And sometimes I wonder what girls think about guys wilth calused hands? Mine are pretty trashed in the high palm area. Gloves are for fags.