That fear is certainly understandable, but eHarmony is not intended to replace communication, but rather start communication. It's merely a people matcher. Now, if you continue to talk to your match through IM and email for the next year or so, that's your own issue. I see no problem going to bars or bookstores to meet new people and make new friends, but to go into those situations expecting to meet someone you'll actually have a deep connection with and marry is purely wishful thinking. Sure it may have been successful for some people, but if only 20-25% of the people who go to bars and bookstores find the love of their life (and that's being generous), an alternative method for finding a significant other is completely welcome

Are you sure she wanted you to shave them off completely? Because that's messed up. Could it be that you have a unibrow and she thought she might be attracted to you if only you did something about it?

Heh, I do have a unibrow and I asked if that's what she meant and she said she meant the whole thing.

Shit, eHarmony charges $50 a month? I guess that helps weed out people that don't have a somewhat decent form of income (poor grad students being left lonely again :( ).

50 bux for what?! Imaginary people? I guess I'm still confused as to what this site is all about, because all I got was some lame-ass thing telling ME what I'M like. I don't see profiles, or shit.

Well, if you managed to join the site, then it must not be entirely full of imaginary people. Perhaps other real people are there as well.

If you don't care then why are you still here telling people they're luddites if they don't care for a fee-based dating site? Or are you just here to mock those who don't share your views?

I was not aware of a $50 monthly charge on top of the $110 entry fee. Like I said, getting fat off the hopes of the desperate. This is only slightly less distasteful than televangelists convincing people to send them money in the name of Jesus.

I fucking love Monkey. ;_;

I think theres something fundamentally fucked up about online dating services - be it a local service, a large internet service, or otherwise.

What happened to "getting to know a person" and failing a few times for experience purposes? Doing the work yourself and being able to determine whether or not a person is for you? This service just encourages those who are already socially inept to become MORE socially inept.

There's nothing terribly "biological" and "scientific" about what they're doing, guys. Don't think there's something special and awesome about it. Its the same old singles ads, except this time, theres a robotic Jewish yenta.

There is no entry fee, and I don't care about people who don't want my advice (namely you). I'm here sharing my opinion for people who are actually interested (the thread creator).

In fact, if you hold out and don't sign up immediately, they will send you an email giving you 3 months for 40 bucks. If you can't afford that, what the hell are you doing to do with a woman on a date?

Oh, you would.

I generally appreciate intelligence, yes.

Don't hate me because I know how to socialize with actual human beings. ^_^

You seem to appreciate people being a pain in my ass.

I fail to see how he's being a pain in the ass, sir.

I share his opinion that you get upset with people when they just don't agree with you. At least I can admit that I have the same problem.

I don't think eHarmony is the best thing since sliced bread. It may be a temporary fix for the people who can't seem to meet others in any other form - but I don't think its right to encourage it.

I got upset because Lehah was being as obvious goddamn troll for no reason. Then this guy chimes in beacuse he's got some kind of problem with me.

I can sorta see how I caused this, yeah..

You got upset over LeHah? Wow, Minion. You should know better than that.

O quit your bellyaching.

I think you're overly defensive, Minion. Relax. People aren't always going to see things the same way you see them.

Now if he was actually trolling, I wouldn't have felt the need to jump in here. But you started waving your badge around because he said mean things to you on the internet. You were so busy being outraged by his personal attack that you were oblivious to how he was shooting down your flimsy arguments.

I don't see anywhere in the board rules where people have to be nice about pointing out how someone is full of shit. It really sounds to me like you're just crying "troll, troll!" because you're lost an argument.

Could you please just read the entire thread before posting? I mean, in general too. It never ceases to amaze me how confidently people will post without knowing what the hell is going on in the conversation.

We were talking about meeting people online and Lehah started saying something about being a shut-in and looking at porn, which was completely off-topic. He probably didn't read the thread either. If you have a problem with me calling people on trolling, then I don't know what to tell you, but I'm not going to argue with you and ruin this thread. This is my last post in response to you.

So I went through their personality test last night (loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooool at asking my interest in "Water Sports") and wound up with three people within my 'metropolitan area' right away (oddly enough, none within the city, all are in the outlying suburbs).

After reading through some of the profiles, I could see how this would work for certain people, though I don't really think I'd be that interested in any of the matches that popped up for myself.

Of course, I also lack a car while at school to actually go out and do anything with people from 15 minutes from out of the city, so it doesn't really matter a whole lot.

You get new matches just about everyday. I think they withold most of them so that you will actually consider the ones your given instead of just treating it like a candystore, like people do with all the other dating sites.

I was just surprised that I'd get three as fast as I did, with how many people in here were complaining about not even getting accepted to the site.

Here we go with this BS once again. Did you even bother to read this thread or did you just jump in? You don't get to know the person THROUGH eHarmony, eHarmony lets you meet someone that you'll have a good chance of liking. How does this eHarmony process have ANYTHING to do with "getting to know a person"? How you get to know that person depends on what you personally want to do after eHarmony gives you a match. And again with calling it's subscribers "socially inept." I'll join the stereotyping and say people who go to bars are abusive alcoholics, yay!

And for Christ's sake, LeHah was trolling, let's take a looksee:

Yea, that's certainly what to say in order to win an argument.

*For the record, I've never used any kind of matchmaking service.

You know, if you're really from Spain as your country flag seems to indicate, then it's doubtful you'll get any matches on a US-based site.

No matches for me either, but I'd rather blame France. Since I'm such an awesome dude and all.

Whoa whoa whoa, buddy. Before you pull a sixgun on my ass, pull the stick out of YOURS.

I kind of SKIPPED all the bullshit, yea. Because thats not what I was intending to reply to. I wanted to talk about eHarmony. NOT LEHAH.

I said exactly what I meant. You know what experience is? It means going out, testing the waters, and finding what you like all by your little self using that LUMP OF TISSUE 3 feet above your ASS. That requires going places, socializing, and trying to get to know people.

But noooo, if you'd rather sit at home and BROWSE a meat-market of pre-selected candidates for you to "date," by all means, GO RIGHT AHEAD! One less jackass I'll have to deal with out there.

God forbid you'd actually have to go out, talk to a person and investigate what they're really like! You'd rather have a nice spreadsheet and image gallery to chose from, as though you were browsing for a used iPod on eBay!

What is the difference between randomly meeting people in a public setting and (not so) randomly meeting people the computer picks for you? This is the question that none of you have been able to answer so far.

Maybe some people get off on the possible(?) excitement generated from randomly walking up to someone and trying to score with them, instead of being matched up with a person you have a better chance than not at being compatible with.

Sure, but the has nothing to do with the effectiveness of eharmony, which is what this thread is actually about, I think...