Well, it does pay to read the posts so you dont look dumb.

But back on topic. Deni, I happen to agree with your arguments. I don't understand why people are seperating "hot" and "gaming". I was more interested, when I started this thread, whether or not gaming is a characteristic one looks for. As silly as it sounds, it is one of those things that is on the back of my mind. Certainly I notice a girl's physical attributes first. Its nice to be able to tell a girl that "gaming" is your hobby and not get strange looks.

And I also posed the topic of compatability as a sub-discussion. I think that is where the issues arose. Or maybe its because some users read only the title and decide to post. =|

I think it's best not to think of your interest in gaming as "staying in the closet."

It certainly isn't the best conversation starter. But if you really like a girl, and have been dating her for a couple of months, and she dumps you because of your interest in videogames [which is really common in today's world] then she really isn't worth it.

But if you're ditching her to play video games, and see it as an alternative to being with her, she really has no choice but to leave you. Girls need attention, first and foremost, and they want to be your number 1 priority.

I've never had an experience where video games came between us, but I have had experience where religion did... and I applied the same logic to that, that if she wishes to leave me because of such ideals then she isn't worth it.

If your woman left you 2 months into your relationship when she found out your played video games; not only was she NOT for you, you are a tool.


I don't know how you can put religious beliefs and video games on the same plane of existence, but I do see where you're coming from. People aren't raised with the belief in Nintendo Almighty and weekly therapeutic EGM study after all.

Have you ever actually TALKED to SOLDIER?

Yes, but I don't think that ONE misfired cumshot should speak for this entire demographic.

It's "[ b ]" not "[ bold ]".

Damn, you win this round, Carlos Mencia.

good you learned your lesson, many, many do not. It's not about the fact the she plays games or watches anime but more of the fact of finding someone that has alot in common with you. Someone you can relate to, if that means they can talk on the same level with you when it comes to games and anime then hurray there you go. This is redundant I know but I'm just saying it's more then just games and anime I am looking for(although it is a part of it) It's what we have in common period.

Gaia Online, then, or gamefaqs. Penny Arcade's forums. Name it, man.

OK... So cumshots might get "misfired" more often than one might think. But just because they gather like a swarm of moths to one large flame doesn't mean they speak for everyone. :/

I'm just saying that thank god most of them are male, it saves on forced sterilization.

So you basically learned that personality is more important than looks. Good job.

A girl who games and watches anime is definately a plus, but it's not what I go around looking for. Lol, I don't join the anime club to find girls. :P So I guess I do base my first impressions on looks, everyone does... but the personaliy has to fit as well. The day you find a girl who is attractive and compatible to you, ohh its beautiful. Like everything has led up to this point lol. And you're like, "wait, you're amazingly hot and you play counterstrike?! NO!!". Anyways...

BTW, is this anime/gaming girl a tad weird? Like, is inlove with Japan for some weird reason, attempts the "americanized lolita look" and is part of alot of online communities? Stray away!

This is most definitely a generational thing. My husband is mildly amused by my gaming, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that he would rather I didn't play games at all. I know of one other person my age in real life who I would consider a gamer and she, like me, doesn't discuss it much with other people. The only way I found out about her is because I caught her taking her Gameboy Advance out of her purse one day at work when I walked past her office. I would love to have a picture of my face at that moment.

My girlfriend has little to no interest in games, except for the occasional Mario Kart on her brother's DS, but she isn't bothered by my gaming. I still favour being with her than playing some game, so it's not really an issue. Say we meet in the evening, she stays until 1 AM (her parents don't like it when she sleeps here everytime), and after that I play some games untile 4-5 AM, depending on if I have to get up at 7 or 8AM. Luckily I don't need a lot of sleep (3 hours, 5 if I got drunk), so I never have to bother her with my gaming habits.

Like most people have already said, it's compatability that really matters most.

I'll put myself up as an example. I'm an average asian female in early to mid twenties, very short, mid-length sleek straight black hair, very prominent eyebrows, medium olive tone skin. Whether that is "attractive" to people, that's their decision, so I'll leave it up to them.

On the other hand, I play games. Not a whole lot (not to the extent of my guy buddies or my boyfriend), but enough to not be a complete noob (Magic the Gathering, World of Warcraft, Halo 2, Counterstrike, various console games to name a few).
I play video games (WoW extensively) to keep in touch with RL friends and to spend time with my significant other. It's not the optimal way to spend time with each other in some respects, but it's a way to keep communication for us. It's situational. What works for my personal relationship when it comes to gaming together may not work with some other couples out there. For me, it works because I work late at night and often times too tired to go out with the BF to "spend time" together. But, if it's gaming, I can come home, get on the computer, and chat for about 3 hours and do a decent amount of instancing / question on WoW while having a good conversation with him.
If it was RL, chances are with in that same time frame of 3 hours, we'll have dinner (1.5 hours), talk, and that would be it...and with a big chance that I'd get tired and fall asleep during that three hour date.

Dating with someone attractive over someone who you're more likely to care much about because you're more compatible with means that you're basically only looking skin deep. I find my boyfriend extremely attractive (I'm biased, sorry), and he's a tad bit "too much" of a gamer for me sometimes, but it's the other intellectual/emotional connections that we have that keeps the relationship in tact. At least that's what I'd like to believe about us.

I think really the question comes down to gamer girl vs non-gamer girl. Unfortunately I've found that a lot of the non-gamers didn't even like to accept gaming as a hobby that I do on my free time apart from them. It was a flaw in their eyes. I don't want to have to feel flawed by my significant other. I'd go for the gamer girl almost everytime because of that.

hmmm...I'd like a partner with the same hobby as mine...aside from the fact that it would cut expenses..I'd have someone to talk to without alienating somebody...In games I usually take notice of the thing as a whole...

so..basically me and a friend (and I mean only one) talks about how the composer sounsd a bit different or how this artist changed the style a bit or how the hell the designers got that into 3ds max or Maya. It would be a nice change to talk with somebody whod understand that....

but on the other hand just as long as we respect each others hobbies I'm fine.

Most important of all is that the other party accepts you for who you are and your hobbies though it helps quite alot when the bf/gf has similar hobbies. That would make deciding where to go much easier. Not that having differences is bad - in fact, its good. With diversity both persons can be exposed to more things and broaden their interest (since couples tend to be influenced by each other... right?)

I think that if a girl doesn't want your to talk about a certain something that really isn't big, in your case...video games, then the relationship is not worth you time. She has no right control what you talk about.

The girl I recently dated hated video games, then I decided to force her to play Ghost Recon 2 for the XBox360 and she immediately got hooked. Everyday she came over she wanted to play...and one day she got a score higher than me.

There's nothing wrong with getting a girl to play a game, in fact the reason why (if not the reason why everyone else plays them) is because it's a temporary escape from the real world.

Very well said.

I have managed to find very nice looking girl who accepts me and my habits/hobbies. Its awesome. She also decided that one day I have to teach to play some games. Very Cool.:biggrin:

Nofirefrog

Nah, I don't care about whether the girl is into videogames or not. Since I am not into them as much, my need for that has diminished. I have diversified my interests over the past while and as a result allows me to seek different types of girls.

There aren't many around in the first place, so you are kinda forced into looking at other interests.

As a general rule:

NOBODY can hate all video games. You got a hot girl but she doesn't like Battlefield 2 and World of Warcraft? Big deal. Place her in front of a TV with a game like DDR or Guitar Hero, or even something a little more conventional like Soul Calibur or Burnout (the newer ones, duh) and you'll bring something out in her that neither you nor she knew she had.

One of those four games are guaranteed to be enjoyable for her.

Prove me wrong. :P

I never said it would make them interested in video gaming. I implied they would enjoy one or more of those games. Slight difference there. I got plenty of friends who enjoy Guitar Hero and/or DDR, but would never play anything else, or obsess over the games in any fashion.

I will concede there are always exceptions to the rule - but why the hell would you wanna socialize with people that BORING anyway? Someone who doesn't even enjoy THOSE games is likely to not enjoy anything besides doing their hair and gossiping about other people and driving around in their daddy's brand new Beamer.