If you're happy, then hey, it's all good. I've been this side of the fence before. People can be mean when they see you and someone of a different race holding hands and stuff. Even though my ex-sister-in-law and I are the same race, I think she had it worse than I did. Every time her and her husband went out somewhere, somebody was always saying some dumb crap. This one guy told her, "Well, damn, you couldn't find nobody in your own race?".

My only real experiences with it mostly had to deal with when I had my son. These two stupid girls in the mall were staring at us when I was pushing my son in the stroller one day. They looked at my son and then at me. While they were walking past, I heard a very audible, "That's not her kid". My ex had to distract me real quick because I was in the process of turning around and walking towards them to confront them.

I don't see what the big deal about interracial couples either.

Ugh, why do I even go back to read this? I hate being reminded that there are rude people out there that will stare and go so far as to make silly comments like that.

That reminds me that I have several friends of mixed descent that I realize I could never distinguish were mixed:
One was Portuguese + Canadian and she jokes about how she's "mulatto".
One person was half-black, half-white.
One friend is Chinese + Vietnamese

No problem. I didn't stare when I met some of their parents, so in conversation I can definitely be cool with it. Although I still try to avoid looking if I were to pass by a couple on the street, because I think that might be rude of me to glance and smile.

I live in Michigan.

Hmm I don't see any problems with it whatsoever. As long as the two people can either accept or work through the cultural differences that tend to go with it but then you hardly need to get with another race to have those pop up.

Basically I think it like this: If you can make it work, more power to you. There isn't anything wrong with interracial marriage at all. We're all human.

However, many marriages like this just don't work out at all due to cultural differences. Basically, just be careful if you are involved in a relationship like this.

So one doesn't need to be careful as to whom they have a relationship with/marry if they are the same race?

Wouldn't the 'cultural' differences be just one of the many, many things that you need to work out just like any other?

hate to pull the incredibly obvious "just so you know" card, but Canadian isn't a race or ethnicity; it's a nationality. we've got a little bit of every race/ethnic background here, so it's not like saying you're Canadian is going to help the other person have any idea what background you hail from. :p


as for my opinion, I don't see what the big deal is. it's two people in love, you see it all the time everywhere you go, only this time the skin colour isn't exactly the same. though even if you are perfectly okay with it, I suppose it can still catch you offguard in that you notice just because it's not something you see all the time. I don't mean in any way that interracial couples are unnatural, it's just not something we're all used to seeing yet since not even a century ago this kind of thing was shunned by most everyone for whatever silly reason they had back then.

the town I live in, for instance, is predominately white folks, so it's not common to see interracial couples (my old neighbours were though and they had the most adorable children), whereas cities like Toronto that have a higher concentration of multicultural backgrounds would be more likely for you to come across an interracial couple. infact having more exposure to it, you probably wouldn't even look at it as interracial anymore, they'd just be a couple of people.

That isn't what I said.

I know what you mean by that. I grew was raised in a town where I only saw about three people at most that were not white/Cherocausian (most still claimed to be white though since it was the most prominent). When I first went to college, that was probably the first time I ever saw more than two African Americans in a town or more than one Asian at a school. However, I seriously don't know how to react when I see an African American/Caucasian couple b/c I know people who were jumped on for watching a couple passing them by. I also have a friend who was jumped on by an African American woman when she looked away as she walked passed a different African American/Caucasian couple. I know it's probably just this region, but I get very nervous about the situation since most of the African American women I hear in class think that the entire school is racist (even though they get more perks due to the college's belife in quotas, and that was told to my class by a faculty member with tenure).

With other interracial couples (including those with African American males and Caucasian females) I either walk casually by or sometimes I will smile and nod if I'm in a very good mood.

I'm only really attracted to white chicks and I'm japanese. This is gonna probably sound weird but I just don't find other japanese girls (or asian girls in general) hot. I dunno why, maybe it's because I'm around too many asians when I get dragged to some party my parents are invited to or some other event.

I'm amazed this is still an issue worth talking about. Why the hell should I, or anyone else, care who someone else wants to screw? Why should I care who they want to get married to? As long as the other person is capable of giving an informed consent to those things, and is a legal adult, it's something that seems to me like it should only matter to those involved.

It's all about your taste. Whoever you're attracted to (within the aforementioned limits) go for it.

Hey everyone, interesting thread here! I have a pretty unique situation, which receives pretty unique attention. BF/AM engaged couple and we get the most obnoxious and rude attention from....WHITE PEOPLE?!?!?! I really don't understand this and would love to! Black and Asian people do not act out like White people do and it's quite annoying!

Looking for a white suit for my fiance for our wedding we were out in the mall and I mean some of the White gay sales people were being rude to us, trying to ignore us, and didn't even want to help us. Then some White sales girl would come and help and would find out the suit is for our wedding and then comes all of the uncomfortability and unbelievable staring...lmao.

I really don't understand this... I'm not with a White man... he's not with a White female?? WTF?? Just don't get it... maybe it's because my Asian fiance is 6'4" and I'm 5'9" or maybe it's because we've been accused of being a striking couple by people we know. Asian and Black people have been the damn sweetest. Can anyone give me a break down on how our relationship "bothers" White people so much?? I hope I didn't offend anyone by my post either, but I'd like to try and get a better understanding of this strange reaction!

Do you define culture by what music you listen to? Because, uh, um.

It should come across to people as natural as two whites or two blacks in a relationship, humans are humans no matter what color and by disbelieving in interracial relationships it just a waste of time to worry about when in reality down generations of a family tree i can guess that almost all humans have an ancestor that had an interracial relationship and stopping it now won't do anything but cause people to do it more. If people would accept it then it wouldn't be as big of a problem because it would become so natural that people wouldn't even turn a head in the direction of an Asian and African American walking together holding hands [sorry, just wanted to use a different example other than white and black couples, i love Asians too :p]

I'm glad you did! lol... it's rare, but we do exist :)

It's because white people are dicks. At least, the ones that're being assholes to you.

There's also the fact that, I bet, most white people you come in contact with aren't rude, but most of the people who are rude to you are white, and so the pattern arises that white people are being dicks where no one else is.

Well, it is just funny to me how people only believe that Whites and Blacks are the only interracial couples in the world just because of the whole civil war thing which can be unfair and sometimes in benefit to Asian ethnicity's because Asians are not looked down upon as much in the media for interracial influences because they are, like you said, rare. But that is what makes it better right? That although it is rare, it doesn't mean that it is non-existent!

Although in reality i should take that offensively i know it is true, i once was told that although nice white people are rare it is because "the quiet kindness of gentlemen is often overshadowed by the loud boastings of opportunistic womanizers." than again, at the rate most males are becoming we for some reason are confined to being so caught up in how untouchable the white skin color is that we are blinded by the fact that whites will not really be the victors in the skin race because of this blindfold. Which in my case is ok because i dropped out of the competition long ago, now i just sit back and cheer on the minority's of the games in hopes that i can change the minds of those sitting around me and cause a chain reaction that will revolutionize the way people look at others. It is a Dream, not a wish.

You're right they are some of the nicest at times, but most are of the older generation. Mainly these younger ones ... late teens to early 30's are being the rude or snooty ones. The older ones seem fascinated and want to start conversations with us often times... we like that :)

I feel like come talk... don't stare and then give a snobby look at us. We are friendly and nice to talk to, but it seems that they'd like to judge for whatever reason. Maybe I'm ranting tonight...lol Was at the mall today looking for that jacket...lol!

Huh, that's surprising. Every time I hear 'white asshole being racist' stories, it's always an older person.

Bummer for you guys.

It is because the older have lived threw a time when interracial couples were so rare they thought it was a myth, the new generation are so caught up in minor racism that they do not see how interesting and encouraging you and your husband are to the others out there who are too afraid of what others think to pursue how they really feel. In the sad retrospect of it all you cannot stop people from staring, but you can laugh knowing that they will one day be looked snooty upon because they aren't in an interracial relationship :)

:) I like your rationale! You have such a positive outlook just like he does. All of this stuff rolls right off of him too, I'm the one that gets annoyed and wants to go into analyzing everything. Funny thing is that the subtle rudeness from other people pulls me closer to him. I guess in time I will laugh to myself just as you say... I will work on that!

That is good to hear, i mean, it may seem weird to some people but when i am walking down the street or in a mall i always tend to smile when i see interracial couples together and although they are kinda confused inside i know why i am smiling and in turns i hope that just one smile from seeing them together in public can help make all those snooty looks seem like a whisper in the wind! I like how you say that the more rudeness that people exert the closer you get to him which shows that you don't care about what others think and you are putting your heart before your mind which shows how much you really care about him ;)

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=culture

Are you just TRYING to find ways to bitch at people, because that was pathetically lame.

Why on earth would I have been talking about music? Where on earth did I even HINT at that?

Since when does culture = music? Music is a very small PART of culture.

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My point being, in recap, that while I have no problem whatsoever with interracial marriages (i'm clueless as to why this is even an issue), that in addition to the other problems/conflicts that newly weds often have, you have cultural differences to deal with, which is an added stressor.

I'd actually prefer to see more interracial marriages as I think they spawn more tolerance & less racism, and help blend cultures together, bringing new things.

Wow, that sounded terribly cheesy. =/

Okay, i see your point, sorry.

And although it may have sounded cheesy it is true, racism has only lasted this long because parents continue to teach it to their children, and with more interracial parents agreeing with integration and all people are equal it will eventually cause the youth of tomorrow to believe that interracial relationships are nothing more than normal, at which they really already are.

Definitely. I can see the racism lessening even in my own family. None of my family is really like...eh, hating racist? if you know what i mean? but its just what they grew up with and what they knew. Now its down to me and while I still do tend to make pre judgements based on race, i dont see it as evident in me as i do in earlier generations of my family. Interracial marriages/relationships do kind of make me turn my head still, because they are still something outside of the norm (at least in my area, and I've noticed this even becoming less so), but i could definitely see that within the next generation it wouldn't even make someone blink an eye.

But yeah, praise the Lord these sorts of things are being worked out of America's society.