i just graduated high school, so the there's a four year gap between the first time we dated and now, and a 1.5 year gap between the second time... @_@

That doesn't mean much Tande.

This is why no one bothers taking you seriously. You're like a caricature. You ask for advice then cry and do what you want anyway. HE ISN'T INTERESTED. Even if he does date you, he'll only be doing it because he knows you'll spread your legs until he finds someone more worth his time.

Tande, you said yourself he outright TOLD you he doesn't want a commitment, but then you completely ignore it by saying "you have a feeling" he isn't into a relationship.

It sucks, but you cannot make someone love you by willing it to happen. He's not going to change his mind or develop feelings for you just because you have sex with him. Keep some of your pride and dignity and walk away without begging him for a relationship he already said he didn't want.

Or, you can keep doing what you're doing, grow more attached to him as time goes on, and set yourself up for a major hurt down the road when the thread this "relationship" is hanging by finally breaks.

This is what I always do, and when everything is said and done.. well, I have a good time. And that's what it's all about. Having a good time.

So, advice. Right. Accept it for what it is, a fling, and have fun with it.

Yeah, except that's not what it's all about, Frank. Furthermore, it's really hard to have a good time when you're just a warm place to stick it and you know it.

A fling is what you have with someone of whom you don't have any expectations.

Tande, I've been in a similar situation. I have to be honest and say that I do not think it will work out. After a first break up, it is very difficult and unadvisable to get back together with the person. There will be so many more problems with the person and while it may feel great being with someone familiar, ultimately, both parties will end up getting more and more hurt.

This is exactly what happened to me in high school. My ex-girlfriend and I got dated and got back-together a total of 3 times and each time, things got worse and worse. In the end, none of it was really worth it and she told me she regretted getting involved with me. The whole ordeal made me feel like shit but its relationships and dating is a learning process.

Unless you're one of the many people that just flat out enjoy fucking for the sake of fucking. Not everyone needs a commited relationship, souther.

Also, Alice, don't make her sound like a victim. She's a good person and all, but this has been entirely her decision.