I am 22, in University and currently single.

I look at the overall impression, which includes face, hair, and body. If I am not generally attracted to them, then I probably wouldn't look twice in terms of relationship stuff.

If overall attraction ensues, then I would proceed into talking to this woman. Then who she is as a person applies to whether I would pursue her or not.

Remember, its about first overall impression, not about how much makeup she is wearing or not.

Well I'm in a class that studies relationships. I'm happy with the guy I'm with and I'm not looking for anyone else. Just the topic of why guys judge a girl based on looks comes up everyday in class and that guys are shallow. That's when my friend asked me how many guys judged me by my looks and didn't get to know me when we could've been a great couple. Also, the preps or other girls who spend so much money on nails, hair, tanning, new clothes all the time... is it all a waste because don't care? Or they do it for themselves to make them look beautiful... so they are insecure about their looks.

Well, if you spent the whole summer out enjoying yourself and your skin is a tell-tale brown as a result, I like it a lot. I don't really have much of a preference in terms of skin color, so long as you aren't harming yourself in the attempt. I think natural is beautiful, and anyone who covers up their natural features with makeup or chemical/artificial tans looks pretty stupid to me.

I totally agree with you on the point of creativity and talent. That's not often a first impression kinda thing, but it has a huge effect on me when it is. You can see some signs of that in the person's manner and style of dress, though, which is why I like fashion so much. For me, clothes are an artform, and if you can be creative in the way you present yourself, there's a good chance you're creative in other fields as well. Artists, to me, are by far the most attractive people on this planet. If you've got no interest in the arts, I've got equal interest in you. :P

The first thing, the very first thing I notice about a girl, before I notice anything else, her figure, hips, breasts, hair, legs, etc, is the manner in which she smiles. I can tell a great deal about someone's character simply by observing their smile. Anyone can have a great personality, but the true nature of their character will always shine through.

I like women with nice legs. Not too fat or too skinny, but somewhere in-between. I also like women that are naturally attractive, makeup is also good on women, so long as they don't use too much. The face itself has to have a good shape, and not look disproportional to the rest of the body.
I also like women with a bit of something to them. I'm not overly keen on thin women, I like women with curves.
As for hair, well, any colour really so long as it has some length to it, I don't like women with short hair, don't know why but I just don't.

Ditto. Forgot about that, as I meet very few girls with short hair. Short hair on girls is generally less attractive imo.

Psychology shows that while guys may be more shallow concerning in it for looks, alot of girls arn't exactly in it for love either. Girls tend to look at things from a more practical and secure aspect. Guys actually score higher on 'romanticism' scales than girls on average.

Guys tend to believe more in love at first sight, one true love, only one girl as the 'one', and etc. They just also tend to want to have a little more fun time than the opposite gender.

EDIT: Sorry, Devo. I didn't realize it was you, though I should have guessed. SIGH. ;_;

Third edit: Age 25. Fulltime student, fulltime employment. In a relationship.

Whoa, whoa, whoa. At the risk of lurker and Devo coming in here and screaming at me, it's generally pretty well known that women are more conscious of their physical appeal than men are.

Why would women be more conscious of their physical appeal? Well, thats pretty much the thing that can be argued - is it what they're trying to attract (and the competition thereof), or is it for themselves - just to look beautiful?

I think you're looking too deeply into what DWA said.

Girls are shallow too - for different reasons.

On a level - I agree with her. This is coming from a reasonably heavy-set woman who is not considered terribly attractive. I once had this BEAUTIFUL friend - absolutely devastatingly BEAUTIFUL - who said she was jealous of me. "Men have to like to you for whats inside you, not whats outside."

Whether or not women are interpreting the message that men send correctly, it APPEARS that men do pass up a great opportunity based on looks alone. "She's not cute enough" or "not up to my physical standards," you see. That can be misconstrued as "shallow" by some - and to a degree it is. But you can't blame a man for BEING a man. He is interested in the goods he sees laid before him. Unfortunately, he is not that excellent at seeing much else sometimes. (Examples in Angst.)

You may be able to argue it, Enceph (I THINK you're Enceph. Can never tell with these CHANGE YOUR NAME weeks), DEVO, but I am sure you can see what she's saying. Men will dismiss a woman based on her looks more often than not.

I'll notice a somewhat-attractive natural looking seductive mature women over a made up hot chick, anyday. I'm naturally drawn to these types of chicks for some reason. I've notice that the curves of hips has a lot to do with how much I wanna fuck too. But, seduction happens on levels way deeper than what a girl looks like for me. Right down to that sex voice to how they sensualy move their body against mine. The feeling of curves against me blows out what she looks like by far (as long as she's not ugly) because I'll began to trans into fuck mode and stop caring about what things looks like.

Chicks who focus mostly just on looks are a psychological turn off because the plesure I get out of being with them usually is not worth my fucking time, money, or effort. They usually are immature, bitch waaaaaay too much, and haven't got a clue as to how to hold their own weight.

Oh and I'm 21, live by myself, plus I work and go to college full time.

In a physical aspect, I find myself attracted to a girl with full hips, a full ass, average-sized breasts, medium complexion, a little shorter than myself, long hair (brunette or red), bright eyes, and a bright smile. I don't find 'face-hiders' attractive, either with makeup, heavy glasses, or other means. Any makeup beyond a little eye shadow and some natural color lipstick gets to be a big turnoff.

Personality wise, I'm attracted to artists with the ability to think independantly and have a strong desire to learn. A girl who is responsive to physical affection and has a healthy self esteem is a big attraction.

How we care for our own appearance--in dress and hygene--is a reflection of how we regard ourselves. Despite what you might think, its a first impression, and first impressions are critical. Personality is a major factor in attraction, but you can't wear your personality out on your sleeve. You have to actually talk to people to figure out their personality and I somehow I don't think you go around talking to every random stranger that passes you by to get a feel for their personality. More often than not, you probably use a first impression to decide whether or not you want to engage a person.

Why the fuck do people keep posting their age and whether or not they're in college? Is this somehow related to what you find attractive in others?

Anyway, it seems I usually have initial interest due to the level of physical attraction I have toward said person. Then I date her for a few months and find out she's a dumb bitch, and we break up and I cry. Not really. I'm very picky though. But I'm not as picky about looks as I am about personality.

But, yea, I'm all about the ( . )( . ) at first glace.

Probably because the original poster asked for it, so people assume it's relevant. Now in return, I ask you:

Why the fuck don't people read the original post before responding?

I hope your girlfriends aren't as picky about reading comprehension as you apparently are about looks and personality.

I've noticed the ones getting cocky are the ones who seem to not be reading the first post =/

A few months? Are you kidding there? Two weeks top(if deception is involved), and I can tell. Normally, its closer to 3-4 days. I haven't been involved with any 'dumb bitches' as I weed them out rather quickly, before they're even on the list of possiblities.

O SHIT. My bad. I give my apologies.

Three sentences of reprimand! Impressive!

Despite not having gained any experiences when it comes to dating so far, I have to say that I prefer the more innocent looking type of girls. Personality and stuff like that is important too, in my opinion as important as the looks, since I also want to talk with her and share some interests here and there, but of course I'd also rate a girl on the basis of her looks. However, don't give me any tarted-up girls with faked fingernails or scruffy one's. In addition to this, I don't like big breasts. :tpg:

And yet another post at 6 AM. Perhaps those late times affect my posting quality negatively, who knows.

Thank you sir, saved me from typing a paragraph. I'll make it up to you some time. :love:

And we just got through talking about reading comprehension. I had such high hopes. There were four lights sentences.

Not gay men. HAH

not to big, but not to small boobs. then after thats settled, is her face ok or is it an abstract painting. then ill see if shes nice around others. if she passes my 1st check then we are a'okay!

You used a colon in the 2nd sentence thus making the 2nd and 3rd "sentence" a singular compound sentence. Three sentences.

"I HAD SUCH HIGH HOPES."

I agree, though I'm mostly picky about girls when it comes to conversation. I need to be able to talk to them about stuff, whether it be religion, politics, music, etc..... I like people with opinions.

The replies are interesting but I have another question- Do you guys believe the things girls do- make up, tanning, nails, buying new clothes, etc- is a waste of time and/or money?

Probably means in proportion to her figure. A 'C' size would probably look a lot different on Paris Hilton than Aunt Jemima, if you catch my meaning. I doubt you can make a set size decision.